The Intimacy Avoidance Affair

The Intimacy Avoidance Affair

Views: 27  The Intimacy Avoidance Affair In this situation, one (or even both) of the partners builds a wall of protection from the world. It is easier to have an affair than be emotionally exposed to their partner. Advice: If a relationship is to survive after...
The Conflict Avoidance Affair

The Conflict Avoidance Affair

Views: 29The Conflict Avoidance Affair This is the couple that seems so very nice, yet one of them will ‘go around the block and across the street’ in order not to have conflict. In this situation it is easier for the person to handle an unfaithful situation than...

Self-Actualization

Views: 17Key Points Self-actualization is the expression of your true self, your fullest potential, and your great capacities. A self-actualized human being is one that’s firing on all cylinders, functioning at his peak. What would the fully evolved and...

How to stay married for life – 9 Key Tasks

Views: 18Research on what makes a marriage work shows that people in a good marriage have completed these  “tasks”: 1. Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enough so that your identity is separate from...

Savannah Ellis was featured in Elle Magazine

Views: 18Savannah Ellis was featured in the article “The Seven-Month Itch” in the May 2014 Elle magazine: ” Researchers have pinpointed the seven-month mark as the flashpoint where extramarital affairs begin, giving rise to the seven-month itch...

How to ask open ended questions?

Views: 40Questions for which the answer is either “yes” or “no” are universally known to be poor ways to dig into an issue. If you are trying to investigate something about your relationship with your partner, you need to learn how to ask open-ended questions. Almost...
How to apologize after an affair?

How to apologize after an affair?

Views: 36An apology needs to be an unequivocal statement that communicates to the injured partner a real understanding of the pain the cheater has caused and a legitimate and heartfelt promise never to engage in the same behavior again. The apology might also include,...
Does anyone understand the grief after betrayal?

Does anyone understand the grief after betrayal?

Views: 17  Hi Savannah, I’ve recently had the experience of my wife betraying our marriage. I am so at loss for what my life means right now. As a man, it has destroyed my pride. I am grieving the loss of what was and what could be. Recently I have been seeing a...