Narcissism is on the rise, and many people find themselves in a relationship with a narcissist, or somebody with narcissistic personality disorder or Borderline personality disorder.
Understanding how you got into the relationship, and if you're still in the relationship, how can you get out of this relationship when the narcissist has such a stronghold. Having a strategy on how to cope with everyday life will be the difference between your sanity, and you yourself believing, that you are the one with the issue.
What is Gaslighting?
The Gaslight Effect results from a relationship between two people: a gaslighter, who needs to be right in order to preserve his own sense of self and his sense of having power in the world; and a gaslightee, who allows the gaslighter to defend his sense of reality because she idealizes him and seeks his approval.
Gaslighters and gaslightees can be of either gender, and gaslighting can happen in any type of relationship. But I’m going to call gaslighters “he” and gaslightees “she,” since that’s the pairing I most often see in my practice.
I give the gaslighting effect special focus on the infidelity recovery institute’s website, as manipulation is so common when it comes to adultery. The unfaithful spouse makes up unbelievable stories in order to carryout the adulterous relationship. Leaving the faithful spouse wondering if in fact they’re losing their mind.
Many cheaters/manipulators will blame their spouse for causing them to have an affair. The betrayed spouse feeling guilty for putting their cheating spouse in a position to violate “their values.”
Does this sound like you? Read the Infidelity Recovery Institutes checklist "20 Telltale signs"
If you are married to a narcissist, you may fear asking for help. You know the narcissist will not approve of you discussing the relationship (especially with a therapist). I can help you cope in your marriage and in this situation. Contact me today and lets talk about it.